Happiness doesn't find you, you find it.
The whole playing hard to get thing should never take place when it comes to happiness. You spend all this time telling yourself to just sit back, relax, and wait for the universe to shower you with all things great, nice, and filled with love because "if it's mean to be, it will be" when you shouldn't buy into that lie. Don't wait for happiness to be thrust upon you but instead chase it. Chase your own happiness because one thing's for sure, no one else will do it for you.
Life doesn't wait for you.
You have become to used to the idea of "I shouldn't," "I don't think I can," or 'maybe next time" that we end up forgetting about ourselves. You stop doing things simply because you're playing this waiting game with life. You decide to wait for the big sign from the universe to tell you to go there or do that because you refuse to make your own destiny. And to tell you the harsh truth: life will always win.
You can't let the fear of pain and loneliness win.
Charles Bukowski once said, “There are worse things than being alone but it often takes decades to realize this and most often when you do it’s too late and there’s nothing worse than too late.” So there you go folks, a quote from the man himself should be enough justification for this reason. Sure, some people regret things they've done but only cowards regret not doing what they could've.
To see and feel who you really are and what you could yet become.
They say you never know a true person's colors until you've seen them at their limits. They also say that once a person crosses a certain line, they're never the same person going back. How are you supposed to know who you could be when all you've ever been has been the same for years? How could you know you could be a writer when you've never written? How could you know you could be an Olympic swimmer when you've never touched the water? How could you know you could be an actress when you've never been in front of the camera? Don't put chains where it's not needed. Your house isn't your home, it's just where you grew up. (Shameless, 2014)
Your comfort zone is a trap.
A comfort zone, as much comfort it brings, ties you down. It not only limits you to be one thing but it also stops you from the possibility of being anything else. Life is constantly changing—and so should you. Life happens, don't take it too seriously all the time.