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This was an entry I wrote for my personal blog. Ever seen those blog challenges being circulated around Tumblr? For each month, per day, one topic is listed down, and it’s your task to write about that certain topic.  No limits, no minimums – just write. I decided to start one a few weeks ago, and this is one of the entries assigned for one day. The topic? “Someone you can see yourself marrying/being with in the future.” I decided to share this personal entry with you girls because I am hoping that if some of you may happen to relate to what I have to share with you all, then this, hopefully, could reassure you that you are not alone.

“This will require some guts. Who am I to accept this challenge entry and write about my dream future partner when I myself have had no experience being madly in like/love with a boy (well, and vice versa), at all, whatsoever? ‘Oh well,’ is all I’m going to say. In my attempt to address The Future Man Of My Life, my dreams and requests may seem a tad far-fetched, maybe even a bit impossible – but where’s the fun in reaching for the obviously possible?

(I think describing my future husband would be too drastic so… I won’t. I’ll try to keep things a bit simpler.)

Hello there. You, someone, somewhere. Hi.

My too-hopeful, rose-tinted perspective on love tells my consciousness that you are out there (rather, I greatly hope you are). Probably you are staring at a computer screen as well, maybe drowning yourself in a book (that I have read too!), or jogging around your village (since you may carry that little athletic knack which is secretly a turn-on for me). What if our paths have crossed at least once, wouldn’t that fact be creepily interesting? Maybe we’ve even looked each other in the eye; or perhaps we’ve even shared a playful conversation that wasn’t just about the weather?

Regardless of how we met, when, where, through whom… all I want to be sure of is how things will progress after our little meeting. Will we click? Will our vibes, auras even, be in harmonious sync? Hopefully, yes. It would be more than perfect if we start off as really good friends. Sincere pals, that’s it. Nothing built out of pressure, hidden agendas or unreliable, wrong motives – just a simple, consistent buddy. Someone I can confide in, no inhibitions whatsoever – free-flowing conversations, exceeding no limits, until the wee hours of the morning. I am sure you will be one of those special people I can bring around, anywhere at anytime, and be absolutely positive the terms ‘dull’ and ‘awkward’ will never cross my mind at all when we’re together. I’d love showing you off as well – to my parents, friends, everyone – thanks to your inevitable charm and likable personality. The songs I listen to, my OA reactions and strange, embarrassing quirks? You’ve noted them, and heck, maybe have even found amusement in them. The minute things I laugh about? You’ll laugh too, just because. What ticks me off, and what makes me smile from ear to ear? You’ve got that down pat. That trusty confidant I can rant, maybe even cry, to? That someone who listens to me with understanding ears and offers the best, unbiased advice? That’s you. You’re that friend I’ve always imagined to have in my life, sharing that awesomely comfortable kind of girl-guy friendship I always see in movies and read about in books. Yep, that friendship would be ours, that friend would be you.

Then BAM. Something shifts. In the atmosphere, inside of me, and strangely, I begin hoping, inside of you too. One famous author said that “there are some things you can’t share without ending up liking each other.” Only then will I agree. How long did it take for this harmless guy, a full-on stranger I maybe merely passed in the halls for months, or a long-time friend that I’ve always seen as JUST a long-time friend, to grow into way more than what I expected him to be? God knows when that happened, or more importantly, WHY. What changed? How? When it comes to throwing curveballs at me and surprising the heck out of me, life owns that uncanny talent. This abrupt change in emotion will probably catch me off guard, and will leave me feeling confused and maybe a bit lost. I’ll try to sort out my thoughts, dissect them so thoroughly and overanalyze every bit and piece. I know I’ll constantly reassure myself that this is completely nothing; it’s just my overworked brain taking irrational action once again. But deep inside, as much as I try to combat that nagging conscience knocking incessantly, I know that something has changed, and I’m as helpless as I know I am.

It’s going to be difficult, and I will probably beat myself up just trying to analyze (once again) what to do, even though I know exactly what I have to do. But for some brand-new reason, I will gradually learn how to let go of my gripping pride and throw it to the side. All of a sudden I know what I want, and for once I am not foolish enough to let what I desire slip away. As the old saying goes, if there is a will, there is a way. If something is worth it, go grab it. Want the biscuit? You gotta risk it! And once my task is done, what is left is fate. For once I will not close myself to the many infinite possibilities I believe I deserve to experience – I will strip away all my fears and just let go and let God. If it’s meant to be, it will be.

And one day, it will be.”

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The Beatles sung it and Joe Cocker even made his own rendition: “You’ll get by with a little help from your friends.” This semester, quite an arduous and exhausting journey for me, validated the message of this song. I have never experienced a semester that was as grueling as this one and it was mentally, physically, and emotionally challenging for me. I had to juggle academics and extracurricular work; and to top it all off, I had to work on my unbearably time-demanding thesis. I don’t know how I’m surviving but I guess having my friends by me helps.

I guess the reason why I’m writing this is to say thank you to all my friends who have stuck with me throughout this entire semester. To my guy friends who are always game for a round of bridge or drinks, to my friends who message me in the middle of the night just to ask how I’m holding up, to my friends who would push me to take a break and go out on a Friday night instead of holing up in my room, to my friends I would cram studying for quizzes with, to friends whose jokes make things easier, to friends who text me for lunch breaks, to friends who text me for milk tea breaks, to friends who bear with my mood swings, to friends who let me leech off from their baon, to friends who helped me get by, and to friends who are not in this photograph. Thank you.

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They say a wedding is the happiest time in a woman’s life.

I attended 2 weddings this weekend. What can I say? I kept saying “aww” the whole time. Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be married?

Nah, I can’t yet. But, do you hear comments like “Ohh, she’s about to get married soon?” Yes, time flies so fast. I still can’t believe that a few years from now, we’ll be going through another stage of our lives.

I simply can’t imagine that. Living our separately from our parents. Starting your own family. And, going through all those with your “soulmate” or lifetime partner.

Anyway, as the wedding reception program was going on. I developed an interest in wedding photography and videography. I further looked into them when I came back home. Here are a few beautiful shots and videos I found from famous photographers & videographers from Manila.

Oyo and Kristine: http://vimeo.com/18737272

The song used was “Collide” by Howie Day. I think the overall wedding concept was really good.

Mitz and Byron: http://vimeo.com/23949226

“Follow You Down” by the Gin Blossoms. My HS teacher’s wedding video. I just find it so adorable that I had to share.

Yep, we’ll never know who’ll be first. Or who’ll be last. As I said earlier, time flies so fast. The next thing you know, you’re the next to be married! So, just live today. Be young, wild, and free.

P.S.
Best wishes to the 2 newlywed couples! :)  Have fun on your honeymoon.

Cheers,
Kim

photos from derekdelossantos.com, jeffandlisaphotography.com, nelwinuy.com

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Candy Girls, I have a confession to make…

I am, in fact, an alien from the Planet Mars here to invade Earth. ( HAHAHA! NO I AM KIDDING! )

I am NBSB. Or someone who has had No Boyfriend Since Birth. ( Raise your hands up, fellow NBSBs! )

Ever experienced the following? Every Valentine’s Day or Christmas, you would always see couples happily strutting down the malls and streets. Or when it’s a group gathering—all your friends have boyfriends and you’re just sitting there watching them being all cuddly. ( HAHA! Forever Alone? )

Or do you get comments like..“Hey! You’re so pretty. Why don’t you have a boyfriend?” or “You have a great personality! Why don’t you have a boyfriend?”

I really find those reasons wrong. If you’re pretty or have a great personality, it doesn’t mean you automatically have to have a boyfriend. The reasons are far beyond looks and personality.

I believe that you need to wait for the right time and right person to come along. I want somebody to love me, for who I am, not for how I look or anything else. I want someone to respect me like how I respect others. I want someone to treat me how I deserve to be treated. 

There’s that famous quote that goes, “Girls are like apples.The best ones are at the top of the trees. The boys don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples that are on the ground that aren’t as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think there is something wrong with them, when, in reality, they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who’s brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree…”

So true, right?  Hard to get. Hindi yun masama. For me, I just like testing guys to see who are willing to go all the way up that tree just to get me and those who like me far beyond looks. Ayoko din yung puro salita, pero walang ginagawa. Because, if you really mean it, you will prove it. And that’s the time I will believe.

Look, here’s the thing. I am not afraid of commitment or anything. I am willing to have changes in my life. But, I am afraid that I might make the wrong decision and ending up hurt. That’s why I need time. Time to think. I really don’t want to rush things, because all you need to do is take one step at a time. To quote Jordin Sparks’ hit single “One Step At A Time,” take one step at a time. There’s no need to rush. It’s like learning to fly or falling in love. It’s gonna happen and it’s supposed to happen.

To those who wants to get into a relationship now, there are a few things that you should remember.

1. There’s always someone you can talk to at the end of the day.
2. You have to plan your life around someone now.
3. Give and take. Very essential in a relationship. Bawal give lang ng give or take lang ng take. It has to be balanced.
4. Trust, very important. This is the foundation of a good and healthy relationship.
5. Understanding each other.
6. Giving time to each other.

There are probably more pointers, but those are some that I have in mind. Remember, Candy Girls, no need to rush. Take your time. Find out who’s willing to do anything to be with you. ‘Cause you’re worth all that.

Also, (All the HP fans would know this) I want a guy who will love me like how Severus Snape loved Lily Potter. Now that’s true love. <3

In the mean time, don’t be sad if you have no special someone yet. Live. Laugh. Love. Darating din yan, kaya maghintay ka lang! Good things come for those who wait.

Hands up, Single Ladies!

Cheers,
Kim

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Why? Because the person who does that truly loves and respects you. Nowadays, not a lot of people have that kind of mentality. It’s just so sad to know.

Girls, your purity is something you have to take care of. This is not something that you can just give away easily to anyone out there. This is for the man you will be marrying someday. This is the most special gift that you can give to him. It belongs to him, and only him—and, no one else can ever take that away from you except him.

photo via thelateafternoon.com

Let me share an activity I did back in High School. It’s called ‘Letter to my future husband.’ Here goes.

Dear Future Husband,

How are you? I bet you won’t believe me when I say that I often think about you. I am not kidding. I think about the life that we are going to share and the journey that we will take together.

I know that there are probably a lot of girls you’ve dated or had a relationship with before. But, I want you to know that I trust you. I trust that will be waiting for me. And so am I.

Times are constantly changing, huh? People are so open about sex now. Why? Probably, because of media and other influences. I am waiting for you, and I always will. You are the only person who can be able to touch me and no else.

There are tons of couples out there who did “it,” and reasoned out that it is called love. But, it’s not. It’s called lust.

Have you ever wondered who I am? How about our kids? No matter what happens, I will always be by your side. For good or for bad. I will be here when no one listens. I will be here when you need a hug. I will be here when you need a good ol’ laugh. I am not perfect, because I am only human. But, I will try to be everything that you need.

I love you and I always will, that’s why I am committing my entire life to only you. Your my minute of my every day.

So, here I am. Waiting. I promise you won’t regret it.

Love,
Your future wife, Kim

Just always remember that he is out there waiting for you. Go do the same. Promise. It is worth the wait. YOU are worth the wait.

Good things come to those who wait, Candy Girls!

Much Love,
Kim

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