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Love makes us feel real. There’s nothing greater than knowing that someone believes in you and cares that you exist. Imagine living in a world where nobody knows who you are—nobody cares if you have no more food to eat, no more place to stay, or no more new clothes to wear. That would suck BIG TIME.

I have just finished reading one of the greatest children’s stories of all time—The Velveteen Rabbit and what I loved about this story is how it presented love in a way that’s plainly true and simple. Direct to the point.

The story was about a little toy rabbit made of velveteen. Who was first neglected, then found love, then lost that love. Read more about it here.

My favorite part of the story is this:

“Weeks passed, and the little Rabbit grew very old and shabby, but the Boy loved him just as much. He loved him so hard that he loved all his whiskers off, and the pink lining to his ears turned grey, and his brown spots faded. He even began to lose his shape, and he scarcely looked like a rabbit any more, except to the Boy. To him he was always beautiful, and that was all that the little Rabbit cared about.”

As I was reading this I thought is it possible to love without having to feel uncomfortable in any way? Is there even the slightest possibility to love conveniently without having to give out so much of one self? I don’t want to grow “old and shabby” so to speak.

But then I realized, we would only truly know how much we have loved and been loved if at the end of it all, we’re worn out. It’s a sad truth, but speaks about what’s REAL. There are lots of great people giving their lives up for those they love…
Greatest example: Jesus Christ, who died on the cross for us all.
Our parents, who sacrifices their time and energy to provide for and nurture us.
Friends, who would give up their reputation to stick around with us even when we do silly things.
A special someone, who would skip lunch and recess just to get us a nice Valentines Day gift.

These are the kinds of love that give without condition. The love that leaves lovers worn out – the good kind. The love that, we, ourselves, cannot help but reciprocate.

…but of course, there are moments wherein both parties have no more choice but to let go. Sometimes distance and letting go is the only way for us to grow… even if you don’t want to and they don’t want to.

“Of what use was it to be loved and lose one’s beauty and become Real if it all ended like this? And a tear, a real tear, trickled down his little shabby velvet nose and fell to the ground.”

…this is what makes us REAL. When we have loved and been loved. When we learn how to let go no matter how much it hurts. The reality of who we are becomes greater. Stronger. We become more real than ever because we waited, loved and received love. Felt distance along the way, but still managed to keep loving and living the life meant for us…

The tears are worth it. The pain is worth it. It’s okay to cry and feel worn out, it’s what makes us real…

So don’t feel hopeless when you encounter loss, Candy Girls.

Say it with me: I AM REAL,
Crissy

P.S. Okay, that was pretty lame for closing! Hahaha!