Even though I am friendly and sociable, I still value “alone-time” or “me time” occasionally. I love being alone at certain times because I feel so independent.
Here are reasons why I value me-time:
- Yes it is nice to have someone to talk to while commuting but sometimes, I prefer to be alone (not being emo! ) I like it because I can take my time and won’t be pressured to go to a certain place; I won’t be worried if I am wasting the time of a companion or if he/she really wants to go elsewhere; I could decide which route to pass; In other words, I am in control.
- I can daydream all day and all night long!
- I can rest my voice! Haha! For real, it is important to preserve one’s voice even if you are not a singer.
- I can think and write about random things.
- It gives me time to pray or whisper something to God.
Do not get me wrong, I love my family and friends dearly! I love hanging out with them and spending time with them. But, I do recognize the fact that sometimes it is important to have time alone for myself, to reassess things, reflect, learn and experience new things, or simply just enjoy the freedom and spontaneity of being me.
So Candy girls, do not be scared to be alone. It does not necessarily equate to being a loner. Sometimes you have to take a break from all the “hanging-out-with-friends” to hang out with yourself.
When a friend tells you he/she needs time alone, respect his/her and the space he/she wishes. You might need some time alone too and you want your friends to understand too.
I must admit though that I have never watched a movie alone. But I have eaten in restos, shopped or simply walked in malls alone for quite a number of times already. Meanwhile, Kath, one of my best friends, does not like the idea of eating alone but she has watched a movie alone already. It is up to you, Candy girl, what you want to do alone. Choose what makes you happy and comfortable but to a certain extent.
Just remember to balance your time. It is still important to mingle with your family and friends just as it is essential to have “me time”.
After all, no man is an island.
Happy and independent,
Bea